By: The Dreamer
originally posted at PositiveLite.com:
I’m quite certain that everyone agrees that we live in a very sexual world, and no matter your beliefs or your grass roots, we’re all at risk of the unknowns. This next week I will be doing two presentations in front of an audience of students where it’s been difficult to give out condoms, and it’s not the students or the teachers that are at fault. I’m downright nervous as there is a part of me that is still shameful of my own past. I’m not in denial when it comes to having had lack of wisdom, as I felt dispensable with respect to my goals and dreams.
Update November 15.Today shed new light on why I continue to share my story publicly, as I do at times get a little overwhelmed with asking myself why? Does the average person really care that I obviously made unwise decisions at some point in my life? I’m aware of them now of course, and I’ve never laid blame on anyone at anytime, nor do I blame lack of education in my grade school years, as again I state, HIV did not exist at that time so there was no need for it to be part of the curriculum.
Two of the questions I was asked by students.....
“Not to be disrespectful” this young gentleman says “but why did you survive when you were so sick in the hospital in 2007. Weren’t people supposed to die when they were that sick?”
My response: “Yes there was a time when people were dying fast and furious because of a lack of education, lack of medications and a lack of HIV/AIDS specialists. There was a day when this was considered to be a plague, and it also appeared to be only affecting the gay community. I still get overwhelmed with how I personally managed to see my way through all of this.”
Another question: “Is there a way to make people get tested for their own protection, as well as, the protection of others? For instance, when one gets their age of majority card.”
My response: “This is a wonderful suggestion and I totally agree, providing it can respect the confidentiality and rights of everyone. All I can suggest is to have a petition signed by students and then taken to your local MP for consideration to be brought forth for further discussion.”
The presentations began with a 101 discussion about HIV/AIDS to help achieve a better understanding, followed by another person’s story besides my own. This other person’s name is also John, a heterosexual man who is a former hockey player. John’s health did not allow him to join us but sent in a CD to share his story. This gentleman’s story captured even myself, and I can’t even imagine where he finds the strength to share it over and over. John also confesses to having made unwise choices that led him down a path of his own. Eventually he meets up with another person living with HIV/AIDS, and she is certainly the one for him. They met through their local AIDS Service Organization, and she always told him every night on going to bed, “that was the most beautiful day of my life and I love you”. She once again said this for the last time and never woke up the next morning…………this was to be the day that they got married.
If there is anything I can do to help comfort this man, it is to help in sharing even a tidbit of his story to help deliver the message to others.
Read more at http://www.positivelite.com/by-author/editorial-authors/john-henry-rombough-davie
Posted on Mon, November 26, 2012 by The Dreamer filed under